When looking for friends and companions, it’s important to choose wisely. The Bible (especially the book of Proverbs) has a lot to say about the kind of people we choose to have as friends. We will become like our friends.
When choosing friends, it’s important to be aware of characteristics to avoid. In today’s post, I want to share three kinds of women we read about in Proverbs that we should avoid having as our close friends.
3 Types of Young Women to Avoid
1) Avoid The Strange Woman
“To deliver thee from the strange woman, even from the stranger which flattereth with her words; which forsaketh the guide of her youth, and forgetteth the covenant of her God. For her house inclineth unto death, and her paths unto the dead. None that go unto her return again, neither take they hold of the paths of life.” Proverbs 2:16-19
“Remove thy way far from her, and come not nigh the door of her house.” Proverbs 5:8
The book of Proverbs has a lot of negative things to say about the strange woman. In short, she is bad news! Both men and women should avoid her at all costs.
Several passages show us that the strange woman always manages to pull others down with her. Because of this, we should know what the strange woman looks like. Here are some of her identifying characteristics:
- Flattering words (Proverbs 2:16; 5:3; 6:24; 7:21)
- Flirtatious actions (Proverbs 6:25)
- Immodest dress (Proverbs 7:10)
- Subtleness (Proverbs 7:10)
- Loud talking (Proverbs 7:11)
- Stubbornness (Proverbs 7:11)
- Never home, always on the go (Proverbs 7:11)
- Shameless displays of affection (Proverbs 7:13)
These aren’t even all of her negative characteristics… Proverbs mentions even more, but I’m sure you get the idea! We should be careful to avoid other young women who have these characteristics in their lives. We should also watch out for these characteristics in young men as well! Finally, we should evaluate our own lives and make sure these negative characteristics aren’t present in us either!
2) Avoid The Foolish Woman
“Forsake the foolish, and live; and go in the way of understanding.” Proverbs 9:6
“A foolish woman is clamorous ; she is simple, and knoweth nothing.” Proverbs 9:13
“…a companion of fools shall be destroyed.” Proverbs 13:20
Foolishness is contagious. It doesn’t take long for someone else’s foolish actions or behavior to rub off on us! Signs of foolishness can be: immaturity, silliness, inappropriate words and behavior, etc. Foolish girls don’t worry about God or authority either.
So, guard against befriending those who naturally default to foolish behavior. It’s okay to be goofy and have fun from time to time. However, if a young woman is constantly acting in a foolish manner, it’s best to avoid a close friendship with her.
3) Avoid The Angry Woman
“It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.” Proverbs 21:19
“Make no friendship with an angry man [or woman!]; and with a furious man thou shalt not go: lest thou learn his ways and get a snare to thy soul.” Proverbs 22:24-25
If we make friends with angry people (guys or girls) we are liable to become angry ourselves. Angry friends can distort the way we look at things… just like the Bible says we can “learn [their] ways”.
I have less to say about angry friends because the Bible is very clear about anger. It’s a sin and God clearly tells us to be careful around those who are given to habitual anger. Heed God’s warning and choose to avoid angry friends.
Someone once said… “Show me your friends and I’ll show you your future”. Be careful who you choose as friends and companions. Display godly wisdom and avoid those who will bring you down and pull you into their ways.
I Would Love Know
- What are your thoughts on the strange woman, the foolish woman, and the angry woman?
- What can you do to avoid becoming like these three women?
Feel free to share your thoughts below!