Hello Friends,

Several years ago, when I was in my late teens, I started emailing some women in my church as well as some missionary wives. I asked each woman four questions. These questions were…

• What advice would you like to give to a young woman like me?
• What do you wish you would have done differently at my age?
• What did you do (or not do) that really helped you in the future?
• Are there any books you would encourage me to read?

As you can imagine, I learned so much from the answers these godly, older women shared with me! I have kept many of their emails in a special file at home.

Just the other month, I pulled out this special file of emails and was reminded of how special these emails are to me… and how much I learned from them. To this day, I still think back on some of the advice these women gave me. Seeing those emails again after all this time gave me an idea. I learned so much from these women, but there is still so much more to learn, and so many other godly women to learn from. This prompted me to reach out to some women I know with some new questions. I am excited to be able to share these questions and answers with you in a monthly blog column called Titus Two Tuesday.

Once a month, I plan to ask a godly Titus Two woman the following questions and share her answers with all of you!

Our first “guest” for Titus Two Tuesday is one of my role models and a godly woman who has taught me so much! Let’s get started:

Titus Two Tuesday | Mrs. Fry

Meet Mrs. Fry

Mrs. Fry is a mother, grandmother, and camp director’s wife! Her husband, Jim Fry, is the director of a Christian camp in Pennsylvania called Servants Heart Camp. I had the privilege of being on staff at camp almost four summers ago as a senior counselor. It was one of best experiences of my life so far, and I have learned so much from both Mr. and Mrs. Fry!

I was so excited when Mrs. Fry agreed to answer these questions for us! I hope you will take her answers to heart. ♥

Titus Two Questions:

Q. What’s your favorite Bible verse and why is it special to you?

The verse that I have for the goal of my life is Acts 20:24.

“But none of these things move me, neither count I my life dear unto myself, so that I might finish my course with joy, and the ministry, which I received of the Lord Jesus, to testify the gospel of the Grace of God.” 

I do not want to allow the trials and difficulties that the Lord brings into my life to deter me from serving Him in the ministry He has given me. I want to be serving with joy till my time here on earth is finished.

Q. How do you prioritize prayer and Bible reading – especially when life is busy?  

I purpose in my heart to have my time with God and make it a priority to do it first thing in the morning because I know it is so important for my walk with the Lord. If you do not purpose to put Christ first each morning, other things become more important and then you do not take the time to spend with Him which is so vital for your life. For me going for a prayer walk and praying out loud definitely helps my prayer time and keeps me focused without my mind wondering.

Q. What piece of advice or encouragement would you like to share with single young women?

Be busy for the Lord and keep your mind focused on serving and growing in Him. Do not waste precious time with a “pity poor me” attitude that you are not dating. Rest in the Lord and commit your life to Him. 1 Samuel 22:31…“as for God His way is perfect.” Trust that He has a perfect plan for you.

If the Lord does bring someone into your life, always honor your parents by making sure they approve. You will never regret it. I know of several situations where they did not honor mom and dad and went against their parents’ wishes. They now regret that decision realizing mom and dad were wise in their assessment of the young man.

Q. What piece of advice or encouragement would you like to share with married women? 

One thing that we as married woman should do is to always respect our husbands and build him up. One thing the Lord is teaching me is to honor his decisions. If he thinks I should do something or not do it, I try to honor that. When we chose our kitchen cabinets I wanted white but he wanted stained cabinets and I chose to honor his preference. I am really glad I did because I believe now it was the better choice. I believe when you honor and obey your husband, God will bless.

Q. How would you encourage wives to “love their own husbands”?

Other than the Lord, your husband needs to be your number one priority. Make him feel special. Be his number one cheerleader. If he feels special and important to you he will not look elsewhere. Do things that please him. Share life together. It is not about what pleases you but what pleases Him and makes him happy.  This shows him you love him.

Q. How would you encourage moms to “love their children”?  

Love your children by loving the Lord and being a Godly mother. Loving their father is another way that you love your children because it establishes a loving home. Loving your children also means disciplining them. Prov. 13:24 “He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.” This scripture is clear that if you love your children you will discipline them. The obvious one is tell your children you love them and give plenty of hugs. They need affection.

Q. What are some things you would have done differently raising your children, if you could do it again? 

1. I would have made it more of a priority to do more ministry and serving others with them. Visiting nursing homes and shut-ins, taking baked goods to those in need or sick. A principle of doing for others and not self. It is more important to minister to others than do fun things for self. Today there is a selfish mentality and not a selfless “serving others” mentality. Jesus is our example, He said in John 6:38, “For I come down from Heaven, not to do mine own will, but the will of him that sent me.”

2. I would have given them more chores and responsibilities teaching them that work is fun.  My daughters have chore packs for their children, even for the younger ones. I see them being very responsible and even offering to do things to help out, instead of complaining.

3. Have more family times discussing spiritual things not just teaching do’s and don’ts but why from God’s Word.  This would help them understand scripture and make wise decisions.

Q. How would you encourage women to remain pure and “chaste” (whether unmarried or married)?

Be in God’s Word and make a commitment in your life to be pure and chaste. A purposing in your heart to do right. This means eliminating anything in your life that is not pure and chaste. That means anything you watch, or read, or places you go. I see too many Christians doing things that Christians ought not to be doing and this eventually leads to a life that is not pure and chaste. Prov. 22:3 “A prudent man forseeth the evil, and hideth himself: But the simple pass on and are punished.”

Q. What’s your favorite thing about homemaking and why?

Cooking is my favorite thing about homemaking. I enjoy finding new recipes and making meals special for family when they come home, especially for the holidays or special occasions. (I especially get to use this enjoyment with my “camp family”.) But I also have learned sometimes it is better to keep it simple and enjoy the family without all the fuss. Another thing I enjoy is decorating my home to be cute with things that I find at thrift stores, garage sales or re-purposing things that others might think are junk.

Q. What’s your best homemaking or time management tip?

Make a priority for what is important. Do those tasks first. Do not neglect or put off chores that you do not like. Do the most important things (even those unpleasant tasks) first then if have time you can do the not as important things on the list.

Q. Are there any books that have had a big impact on your life that you would encourage other women to read?

The three books in Debi Pryde’s Titus 2 series are excellent books that have been helpful to me.  Two devotional books that have really made an impact on my life are “Deep Fire” and “Oasis-Daily Refreshment for the Thirsty Soul”. There are some very thought provoking quotes that really help me in my walk with the Lord.

Q. Any final piece of advice you would like to share with us?

Always make a goal of keeping Christ first in your life and be faithful to Him. He should be the number one priority in your life and doing what pleases Him not yourself. It is so easy to get caught up in pleasing self that we lose sight of our real purpose here on earth, and that is to serve the Lord. Life is too short to waste it on living for self. Be busy for God making a difference for eternity

Final Thoughts (From Rebekah)

Well friends, I hope you enjoyed reading Mrs. Fry’s answers – I know I sure did! There is so much wisdom and insight in the advice she shared with us. I hope you will read over these questions and answers again, focusing on the ones that apply specifically to you! We should always seek to be learning from the godly Titus Two women around us. Stay tuned for next month’s Titus Two Tuesday Q&A! ♥

“The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.” Titus 2:3-5

Be sure to leave a comment below and share what you learned from this post!

Until Next Time,