I often wondered what godly young men are looking for in a wife. Partly because I was curious and also because I knew that finding out the answer would help me prepare to become a godly wife.

I thought, “If I asked a godly guy what he (and other guys) were looking for in a future wife, what would he say?”

I knew you would love to know the answer to this question as well.  So… I finally asked!

Thankfully it didn’t take long for me to get a complete answer. The list to follow was not written by me but by a godly friend of mine. He compiled this list with the help of a few of his friends.

So, what are young men looking for in a wife? Here are their answers.

From a Man’s Perspective

I would like to marry a woman who . . .

…has the characteristics of the Virtuous Woman – Proverbs 31:10-31

…is Godly – I Timothy 6:6

…has a meek and quiet spirit – I Peter 3:4

…honors her parents – Ephesians 6:2

…will submit to her husband – Ephesians 5:22

…will reverence her husband – Ephesians 5:33b

…will love her husband – Titus 2:4

…loves children – Titus 2:4

…will be a helpmeet for her husband – Genesis 2:18

…loves the Lord above all else – Deuteronomy 6:5

…dresses modestly – I Timothy 2:9

…has compassion for the lost – Matthew 9:36-38

“Marriage is the second most important decision of life.  When I was asked to compile a list of ‘What a man is looking for in a wife’ my mind immediately went to Proverbs 31.  This passage describes a woman of outstanding character but unfortunately, godly people are becoming fewer and fewer.  Therefore, it is more important than ever before that young men and women lead godly lives and ask God to give them a godly spouse.

Carnal people are attracted to other carnal people but spiritual people desire to be sharpened and uplifted by the godliness of others.  This principle also applies to marriage.  A carnal young man is much more concerned about a woman’s beauty, fun, and freedom from parental authority than a woman’s godly character.  A godly young man will pray and search diligently until he finds a woman whose worth is far above rubies (Proverbs 31:10). Ladies, please allow Jesus Christ to mold you into a virtuous woman and God will give you a godly husband.” -A Christian Young Man

Final Thoughts

What do you think of their answers? This list was written by a young man (and his friends) but it’s God’s ideal as well.

What will you do to become this kind of a woman? Are you willing to rise to the challenge?

I felt a bit sobered when I read that list -it’s a lot to live up to. I can’t do it, and frankly, neither can you. However, God doesn’t expect us to be perfect, just growing. By His grace we can become the godly women (and future wives) that He wants us to be.

(A special thank you to Daniel, Christian, Thomas, and Matt for making this post possible!)

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