Every young woman who is single will deal with it differently. Some enjoy singleness while others seem to despise it. Personally, I wish I would have begun treasuring my single years even sooner.
I am looking forward to the day that I marry the man God has for me, and get to care for a home and children (if that is God’s will for my life). But I would much rather be single than in a relationship that’s not meant for me.
Maybe you’re a single young woman and you feel a little worried. No eligible young man has made an appearance or maybe you’re still reeling from a failed relationship. Whatever the case, this post is for all of you single girls out there still waiting for “the one”.
Thoughts & Tips for the Single Christian Girl
1) Singleness is a gift
Singleness really is a gift whether you believe it or not. Being single often means we have more time, more opportunities, and more freedom. Some married women look back on their single years and wish they would have treasured them more. Don’t be one of them. Realize that singleness is a gift and start treating it like one!
2) A relationship will not make you happy
Being in the right relationship can definitely add happiness to your life. However, a young man is not going to permanently make you happy. You can be in a relationship and still feel absolutely unhappy. If you are looking for a boyfriend to make you happy, you both will be disappointed and miserable.
3) Being “desperate” is unattractive
Girls that are always talking about their desire for a relationship, aren’t going to attract the right kind of young man. A young woman who is content being single and isn’t sitting around waiting for a young man, is going to be way more attractive to the right guy when he does come around. Think about this… when Mr. Right shows up, do you think he wants to find you pining after guys and a relationship? No. He will be happy to know you have been loving your life and living it to the full while patiently and contentedly waiting for him.
4) No relationship is better than the wrong relationship
It is much better to be single then to be in a relationship that was not meant for you. Don’t ever rush into a relationship… this will only cause problems in the future and possibly heartache for the both of you. Know this: you are much better off without a boyfriend than in a relationship with the wrong guy!
Keeping these things in mind, let’s…
5) prepare for the future
Like I said, I wish I began treasuring my single years much sooner. This is the time to prepare for our future, work hard, save money, make memories, and cultivate the kind of character a godly young man will look for and treasure. This is also a great time to serve God while we don’t have the responsibilities that come with being a wife. Let’s take advantage of being single, while we still have the time!
6) grow Spiritually
The most important thing we can do in our single years is grow in our walk with God. Learn what the Bible says, memorize it, meditate on it. Pray and talk to God. Learn about God and learn how to walk with Him. Our faith and relationship with God will sustain us now and help us so much in the future. If we make God a priority while we are single, it will be easier to keep Him the top priority when we are married.
7) observe young men
I am not saying you should be checking out every guy that comes along. However, learn to observe young men. Watch how a young man treats his mom or his sister(s). Watch how he handles anger. Watch how he interacts with young women. Learn to observe so that you can discern between “godly” characteristics, “good” characteristics, and “ungodly” characteristics. The goal is not to find a “good boyfriend” but a godly boyfriend. Observe young men so you can discern the difference.
8) Observe married couples
I think it’s lots of fun to observe married couples. I think it’s super sweet when they still hold hands or give each other “the look”. By observing married couples we can learn so much. We can learn what to look for in a future husband and what things we would really like to avoid in a future relationship. Let’s observe married couples and learn from them.
9) Be-friend young wives and moms
Most of us aren’t that much younger than some wives and moms. Let’s befriend them and learn from them. We can encourage them and they can do the same for us. If anything, they may be able to give us a healthy dose of reality! 😉
10) Pray about the future
You may or may not choose to pray for your future husband. That is a personal choice… God doesn’t have marriage planned for everyone. Whether you pray for him or not is up to you… but we must be praying about our future. We should be praying for wisdom, direction, and guidance. Let’s make time to pray about our future.
More thoughts for the single girl…
I just mentioned that marriage isn’t for everyone. Maybe you are really worried now! Don’t let the fear of being “single forever” keep you from serving God or living a fulfilling life. If God hasn’t revealed a young man for you yet, you can be sure He has something wonderful in store for your life -whether it’s an amazing man down the road or a life of fulfilled singleness, choose to have faith in His plan. It’s tough but faith is so much better than fear. Just trust Him.